It seems to be a human predisposition to make assumptions. After all, our species survival was once dependent on our ability to predict and avoid life-threatening danger by making assumptions based on the sensory information we received.
By definition, assumptions are not definitive truth. They are but ‘hypotheses’ we come up with using our skills of deduction, and the accuracy of these assumptions will depend on how perceptive and unbiased (or open) we are. In observing without expectation, bias, or prejudice, we can learn many REAL truths about the people and the world around us. And when we live and observe with the intent to learn – and not to judge or to criticize – we’ll find that growth, progress, and knowledge come to us fairly easy.
I say this because I too am guilty of passing false judgment on others based on my own assumptions. And through this mistake, I’ve learned that it is better to give others the benefit of the doubt rather than condemn them without cause. Since we may not be able to ascertain the heart or intent of another without prolonged [and unbiased] observation and interaction, it is often best to resist the urge to judge someone else altogether.
That is not to say, however, that we should ignore or dismiss obvious red flags. Because doing so may make us unnecessarily susceptible to harm or the ill-intent of another being. When needed (and if possible), we can simply distance ourselves from those whose motives we are unsure of in order to avoid the ‘risk’ of getting hurt. Though in doing this, we may also be missing out on a promising and beneficial experience.
So let us refrain from passing judgment on others, and let us instead strive to learn from all who cross our paths. And whenever we catch ourselves wanting to condemn another, let us turn this ‘scornful eye’ inwards to see how we can better ourselves instead. We may not have control over the life or actions of another, but we most definitely can take control of our own thoughts and actions and steer them towards the path of Truth, Compassion, and Righteousness.
